Non-requested advice for A...

2021.06.13 

Dear A,

This is a small letter with some advice you didn't ask for. Feel free to ignore.

OK, you kept reading. These are some things I have not fully learned, I believe they make sense and I try to apply them. Now that you are traveling far and wide, some may help. 

So here we go:

1. Do not do something stupid just because it sounds fun. 
2. Never lose control over your mind and body (see 1). Your decisions should always be your choice. You own yourself and you owe nothing to anybody else. 
3. Do something fun. 
4. Love more and fully (although see 1 and 2). Love can take many forms and depths, allow yourself to experience it. This one is I think the most important. If there is something I believe I should have given myself more of an opportunity, it is this one. I think when I have done it, I have found more people to share it with, build my tribe. 
5. Your heart will be broken, it is a consequence of 4. No advice here. Regardless, I still wish I should have given more space to 4.
6. Memories will be built. Some exhilarating, some joyful, some peaceful, and some terrible and painful. Experiences are what will make you, what will drive your next decision at this instant. Embrace yourself as a whole (the good and the bad). I believe, taking 1 to 5 will help somewhat.
7. Build your own list (See 6).

Take care of yourself and enjoy this next stage. 

You are a good human. That is the best to be. 

Love,

PabloB

P.S. Forgot to add: Remember our home is always a safe space. If you or a person you care for needs a place to take a breath, talk or just find refuge from the world, come, bring or send them here. M and I will welcome them.